Back in the day, I had a good time dating. But today, it’s a whole new ball game. Or better put, relationship game.
It seems rare that relationships are formed out of the blue. What I mean by that is, two people meet, talk and usually the guy says something like, “Wanna go out?” and the lady, if receptive, will respond with; “Okay.” And you’re off to the races, so to speak. That doesn’t seem to be the way to do it today. Although, I’m sure it may happen occasionally. In the Northwest we will probably use Starbucks as a rendezvous point for the first date. It’s public and a great atmosphere for conversation.
So, when a person wants to meet someone to get to know or start a relationship, where does one go? This is the age of the internet. Online dating is generating hundreds of thousands of relationships around the world. And a lot of times, they are lasting relationships.
Look for dating clubs. They usually specialize in professionals getting together and just hanging out at a pre-planned destination or activity. These companies don’t advertise romance, but may mention that if one does start, well, that is all up to you. It’s actually a great way to meet new people and break up your routine for an evening. Who knows what could happen meeting people? It seems like the secret to getting involved with someone special is keeping your door open to new people.
I’ve read a few sites and blogs while doing some homework on this topic. Some people, I learned, are too shy to go to these places online or to introduce themselves to people on a happenstance meeting. For them, what was advised was to go to a church meeting for singles, if they have any. Usually, most churches do. It puts you in a more familiar situation and you can relax a little. Talk to people you are around and possibly grew up with. If the town is small enough, everybody know everybody anyway.
Get involved in a sport. Learn new things that expand your “people to know” inventory through these gatherings. Going to a community college to learn anything that interests you puts you in a scene where people are. Use the sport or college as a pad to ease yourself into a relationship. Now you’ve put yourself in a position where there are other people who have similar interests you have. Instant acquaintances, with the possibility of something more fulfilling.
I don’t believe I really have to say this, but I’m going to. And I am because I’m running into it too many times.
Be yourself when meeting people. If you aren’t, they will figure out anyway. To a lot of people, a fake is the biggest turn-off there ever was. I, for the life of me, can not figure out why people try to be something they aren’t. Most can see through the facade in the first place. When that happens, chances are, you are back at the same square you started in. Alone. So be real.
What I’m trying to say is this; Do it this way. Forget the romance thing. Too much pressure in it anyway. Look for someone you’d like to have a friendship with. You can always turn it into a romantic thing later. And usually, those are the most lasting relationships. But don’t be afraid to take a shot at dating someone … eventually.